Relocations are stressful. Adults understand this. But for kids, a relocation can be very challenging.
- Room
- School
- Friends
- Environment
- Routine, etc.
Fortunately, you can make it smooth by being intentional.
It can be easier with these tips.
Have an early and honest conversation with them
Children are better prepared to deal with change when it is not a surprise. After confirming the move, sit them down. Discuss it.
- Be straightforward about what is happening
- Reassure them on what is not happening.
- A new block
- A new room
- New adventures
- New friends.
Allow them to ask questions and listen. They will feel heard and reassured.
Engage them in the process
Children’s most significant problem with moving is that they feel it is happening to them and not with them. Wherever possible, let them own it. For example, allow them to:
- Pack their room
- Organize their new space
- Select an item to take to the new home.
Allow them small choices, such as what toys go in which box. They provide children with a sense of control. This is important during uncertainty.
Maintain routines
Routines are a comforting feature for children. Particularly when there are changes. Maintain the routine, whether it is:
- A bedtime routine
- A weekend breakfast tradition
- Movie nights, etc.
This reassures them that their life is still the same. Even when the boxes are stacked high! Even when the house feels different! This is important.
Make moving an adventure
Moving day can be tense for the kids. But you can do things differently.
Pack a special bag for each child with:
- Snacks
- Toys
- Books
- Games.
It will keep them occupied. Give them a small task to handle, such as:
- Distributing water bottles
- Running errands
- Keeping an eye on the family dog.
With a dedicated moving company such as AAA Moving, the process is streamlined. This way, you will remain present and calm with your children rather than getting engrossed in the moving details.
Recognize their emotions
“I don’t want to move.” You will hear these words every other time.
At this point, you will want to explain how awesome the new house will be. But resist that urge.
Allow your child to experience the emotions:
- Sad
- Concerned
- Angry.
Acknowledge their feelings:
“I understand how difficult this is for you.”
Then, reassure them. When a child feels understood, they will adapt more gracefully to change. Do not sweep their feelings aside.
Keep old friends connected!
Leaving friends behind! This is often the hardest part of moving for kids. Before you leave, arrange a mini “goodbye party.” It will give your child closure.
After the move, schedule video call appointments with close friends. In addition, encourage letters. Even voice messages.
Keeping in touch with friends helps comfort your child. They will not feel like they have lost.
The takeaway
Moving with kids is challenging. But it’s also an opportunity to show them how to navigate change.
- Maintain communication
- Safeguard what’s important to them
- Allow them time to experience all of their emotions.
They will emerge stronger on the other side.
